(12-16-2020 08:49 PM)olliebaba Wrote:  JR, you're problem is that you're married to a woman and that started many moons ago with Adam and Eve and it's not gonna change...ever.

My biggest peeve is when I'm working on something and my wife interrupts me for help. I realize that she can't do very much because of her illness but she's been doing this even before she fell ill. When I'm working I HATE to be disturb because like with you it throws off the karma or flow of my work.

Yesterday I was cleaning house and even though I HATE housework I realize that if I don't do it it won't get done and don't tell me to get professional help, that's not gonna happen as I hate people working in and outside my house. I'm a very private person and so is my wife. They won't clean to our standards to begin with and I would hate to be telling them what to clean.

Anyway, my wife has gotten into her habit of asking things of me when I'm doing something useful and that is a pain. I don't expect her to change so I guess I'm relegated to just griping and getting made at her. My anger or her's for that matter don't last more than a few minutes anyway. Too bad your wife isn't like that but oh well, different wives think differently.

Well, every man's situation is a bit different. I love mine as you love yours, but the demand for attention is similar yet dissimilar. They are both women so that's the similar part. Your wife has a serious illness and for that you've both had my prayers.

Never cared much for anyone in my home either, especially to clean. Had a rash of burglaries when I lived in Georgia. Turns out the bug man was casing houses for his friends. They didn't get mine, but sure hit a lot of others. My schedule was so whacky they could never be sure when to hit. That, and I required the bug man to meet me since I wasn't giving anyone I didn't know my keys. Today it's healthier anyway. The bug poison goes on the outside and not the inside and is more effective.

We share cooking and each have our specialties. We share cleaning though my wife's eyesight misses stuff I have to get behind her. It is what it is. But, I do miss fishing in the Gulf Stream. Therapy more than fishing and an experience dang close to Nirvana.