(08-23-2022 11:29 AM)JRsec Wrote:  

(08-23-2022 10:53 AM)Eldonabe Wrote:  

(08-22-2022 11:56 AM)gdunn Wrote:  The neighbor.

Neighbor has a daughter the same age as my son. Daughter can't go outside by herself and must have an adult not for any reason but attention. I was informed this weekend that she was going to see a therapist because the girl's grandma (who is some type of child psychiatrist before retiring) thinks there's anger issues there.

This was said to me this weekend.. I didn't think before I spoke.. I said, she just needs that @ss whipped one good time.

The mother was mortified and let me know her mom had done extensive research on kids that were spanked vs those who weren't, and those who weren't were shown to be model members of society while those who were spanked ended up being losers and dependent on government. This girl is in her 30s, still lives with her mama and daddy, and seems to only date guys that have kids they never speak to and can't figure out why they won't go out more than one or two dates.

I looked at her and said.. My sister and I used to fuss, fight, and make up stuff on each other to get the other in trouble. So the rule was instituted if one got a whipping the other did too no matter why.. My sister used to not be able to sleep at night unless she got that @ss whooped. Neither of us have been to jail, have drug users, and we both have good careers.. Maybe we're outliers..

Wasn't long after that they went home.

I got my ass whipped once by my Dad - once. Never stepped across the line again. Still haven't to this day and that was 40+ years ago.

You don't spank children to hurt them. You spank them to establish who controls the situation and to remind them that stupid or deceitful decisions have painful consequences.

Teachers lost the classroom when the teacher couldn't make a discipline problem bend over in front of the class that he/she was trying to run and make the unruly child take a lick, which showed the class that the teacher was in control. Who cares if the punk goes to detention or the principal's office! When the kid comes back, he still looks like a hero. When the teacher can make him bend over and take one the punk looks like an idiot, which is the whole point!

When a parent spanks a child, it merely reminds the child who is in control. A world where nobody is in control and rules are not obeyed is chaos. In ancient Israel chaos was considered to be the presence and dominion of evil. I can't say that I disagree.