JoltinJacket Wrote:I've been talking to a girl and it seems like we've hit it off. We've got a lot of things in common and had some really good, long conversations. So anyway, I was thinking about asking her out to a movie or something casual like that tonight (all we've done so far is meet a couple times and talk on the phone/online), and out of nowhere she asks me this - "I met this really cool guy a few days back at the mall and got his number and vice versa and we really hit it off. Do you think it'll be weird for me to ask him out?" I'm like hey that's what I wanted to do. Of course I didn't tell her that...I just told her yeah, if that's what she wanted then go ahead.
What's the deal with them always sending out mixed signals like that? I mean apparently all she sees me as is a friend. Not like that's a bad thing but I was hoping to start something a little more. Do I step in and ask her anyway and risk scaring her off because I'm too forward or do I wait and see where that thing with the other guy goes?
You want a story about women and mixed signals? Here's one!
A few years ago, i was learning about journalism at UMCP, and i meet this girl. The first day, i decide she's just really cool, and that she'd be a good friend. Later, I realize that I am pretty attracted to her. So, the day before I leave, I pull her aside, and tell her this. She smiles, and says something like thanks. A few months later, I get an invitation for a reunion, but i can't go. So, I call her up and tell her thank you, and that she will "always have a place in my heart" (cheesy, i know, but i was young). Two days later, i get a letter from her, saying thank you for the comment, and exposing her recent feelings. I'm off thinking that i've made a connection with her. Hah! I send her a letter in response, and a few days later, i get a letter asking her advice. Apparently, she not only had a boyfriend, but she was also interested in someone that she met around the same time she met me. And to top it off, she asks me if she should stick with her boyfriend (who was going off to college), or go with the new guy she met (who, by the way, was a friend while i was at UMCP). Talk about a slap in the face.
Being a kid, it was hard, since it was the first real time i felt a connection with someone outside of going to a dance or something. Interestingly enough, that's the closest i've come to a relationship, and at this point, i've given up on women, period.
Anyway, I won't give you advice, besides telling you to do what's best for you in the end.
